Many young people define success like this: Graduate from a famous school, work for a big company, then buy a house, buy a car, and get married.
These big goals make young people keep rushing. But when they actually reach these milestones, they realize life has other goals worth waiting for. Some want a peaceful life with family, but some young people need to "heal" after a long time of being tired from running too fast.
Tuyên often feels lonely when in Saigon. (Photo: cafebiz.vn)
"What if I can't see my parents one last time..."
Tuyen's decision to return to Phu Quoc was not easy.
At that time, she had a dream life in Ho Chi Minh City. Tuyen's job was very good - right after graduating, she got job offers in Singapore and big companies in Saigon. She also had freelance work with international companies, helping her earn much more than her peers.
But at that time, Tuyen was not happy. "Life in Saigon made me very rough and feel like I was fighting many things. Not just at work but with myself too. I always felt very lonely and lost in my thoughts," Tuyen remembers.
Like many other young people, Tuyen also dreamed of working for big companies. And she achieved it when her first full-time job was at a top global hotel group. But the more she worked, the more she realized it was not her dream.
"At that time, I was always in the standard state of society. The definition of success was finishing university, getting a job in a multinational company. I worked hard for that and wanted others to recognize me. But when I got it, I realized it wasn't what I wanted. Slowly I became afraid of society, afraid of being judged. I looked for recognition from others, not from myself," Tuyen explains her negative thoughts from 4 years ago.
"What if I can't see my parents one last time" was the only question in Tuyen's mind. "I was chasing society's standards, making a lot of money but not finding my own happiness. While my parents always welcomed me and made me comfortable for over 20 years, why don't I go back to my family," Tuyen thought and decided to return to Phu Quoc.
Accepting to start from zero, income now only 2 million/month
The first days in Phu Quoc were not easy for Tuyen.
Because before that she had a pretty stable personal life in Saigon, with close friends in the big city and other countries.
Tuyen got used to the smallest things like getting used to her family's pace of life. To keep herself from getting caught up in negative thoughts, Tuyen often reads books, plays sports and watches positive content.
Returning to Phu Quoc was when Tuyen accepted to trade everything from zero. Currently, she is managing her family's hotel. From the smallest steps like designing logos, cleaning rooms, mopping floors... Tuyen does everything herself.
She also accepts having a much lower income. Like last month Tuyen only received 2 million, the rest was saved to pay salaries for employees.
"I feel stressed sometimes. I used to think about what if I chose a different path before, then I wouldn't have to do these jobs now," Tuyen shares. But Tuyen never regrets it. She loves her current manual labor life because she knows who she wants to be and what she wants.
Tuyen talks about the moment she realized her mindset had changed: "It was on New Year's Day, I was sitting at the temple. I looked down at Phu Quoc island and asked myself: How do I feel? Who do I want to live as and become? That's when I decided to become the person I wish to be. I want to be there for my family and help the community, and further, to promote Phu Quoc tourism."
Tuyen only gets 2 million/month but is still very happy!
Tuyen started everything again from zero, but her mental life is much better. "The Tuyen from 4 years ago could make a lot of money, spend on herself but never cared for others. The current Tuyen sometimes only gets 2 million, but I accept giving more money to employees. My income has decreased a lot, but in terms of living values for others, I have much more now," she proudly talks about her current life.
Prepare enough money to live comfortably for at least 3 years before healing
During our talk, Tuyen often mentioned her family - something she didn't care much about in the years she was busy racing in the city.
She remembers: "There was a time I was depressed because of society's prejudices leading to not being able to escape the fear of being judged. My dad advised: 'You know and believe in yourself, that's enough'. That saying helped me become more decisive and confident to return to social media."
Tuyen is grateful to always have her family by her side.
The decision to return to Phu Quoc wasn't made quickly, she had prepared for a long time. Although still lost with herself, Tuyen was always confident about her ability to make money.
"I didn't face financial difficulties when returning home because I had saved enough money to live for at least the next 3 years. I gave up opportunities out there because I had certain confidence in myself as well as a stable financial source," Tuyen shares.
When she realized who she was, Tuyen's dream changed. She hopes to rebuild her parents' hotel brand, and further change the communication mindset about Phu Quoc tourism. So, she just gave up a Master's scholarship at Deakin University (Australia) to focus on this dream.
Now, Tuyen is very happy with her manual labor job. "I gave up many things to have my current life and I'm silently grateful every day. I'm even proud and want to show off the sweeping and cleaning work I'm doing. I hope to spread positive energy to be yourself and confident in yourself," Tuyen proudly says.
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